Believing In Yourself When Others Don’t - 7 Helpful Tips To Immediately Increase Your Confidence
By SaiF on Feb 4, 2008 in Best of SaiF Improvement, Success Stories
Hey my friend!
Have you heard of Paul Potts?
If you haven’t, then sit up, turn up the volume
and watch the video now.
Did you see the look on Simon Cowell’s face?!
That was priceless!
I’ve got a confession to make.
Tears rushed to my eyes as I watched that!
As he sang, the images of myself overcoming the odds and breaking
through every single one of them to emerge victorious came to me.
It’s amazing how his energy can be transimtted through the
video and to us isn’t it?
I don’t know what he’s saying but it sounds to me like he’s
saying “I know I was small before, but here I am, I’m no
longer afraid. This is who I am! I’m good enough.. I’m great!”
Self-confidence.
That’s what it’s all about isn’t it?
Here are 7 Helpful Tips To Immediately Increase Your Confidence:
1) Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?â€
Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems.
We all have a certain amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating
extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our
goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy worrying.
Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks
for what you don’t. Then invest your energy wisely.
2) In doing something for the first time, imagine that you
have already done it in the past.
Close your eyes, then vividly imagine you succeeding wildly
at what you are really going to do for the first time.
The mind does NOT know the difference between something VIVIDLY
imagined and something real. Make it vivid by involving all 5 senses.
3) Find someone who is already confident in that area and copy them.
Model as many of their behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs for
the context you want to be confident in as you can.
How can you do this? Talk with them if you have access to them.
If you don’t have access to them, get as much exposure to them as you
can.
This could be talking to people who know the person and/or buying
their products if they have some.
4) Use the “as-if†frame.
I literally love this frame of mind.
If you were confident, how would you be acting?
How would you be moving?
How would you be speaking?
What would you be thinking?
What would you tell yourself inside?
By asking yourself these questions, you are literally forced
to answer them by going into a confident state. You will then
be acting “as-if†you are confident.
Now just forget you are acting long enough and pretty soon you’ll
develop it into a habit.
5) Go into the future and ask if what you’re faced with is such
a big deal.
This might be a bit morbid and yet this works tremendously well.
Imagine yourself on your deathbed looking back over your life.
You are surrounded by your friends and family.
You’re reviewing your life. Is what you’re faced with now even going
to pop up?
That’s highly unlikely.
Keeping things in proper perspective really diminishes fear.
6) Remember that you lose out on 100% of the opportunities that
you never go for.
To get what you want, ask for it.
I fully believe that if I ask enough people for whatever I want,
I can get it. This is not necessarily true and yet it’s a useful
belief.
As you think about your goals and what you are striving for, how
effective would it be for you to believe that all the people out
there want to help you if you only ask?
Whether that is true or not in the “real world†does not matter.
If you find that belief empowering, I invite you to adopt it as your own.
7) Disarm the nagging, negative internal voice. That negative
internal voice can keep anyone stopped.
To disarm the internal voice, imagine a volume control and lower the volume.
Or how about changing the internal voice to Mickey Mouse?
Do you think you could take Mickey Mouse seriously if he were
criticizing you?
Change the voice to a clown voice.
The point is to disarm the voice by altering the way it nags at you.
If I hear my own voice nagging me, it stops me.
If I hear a clown voice, I laugh and continue onward.
This article is based on the book, “Unstoppable Confidence†by Kent Sayre. To find out why Brian Tracy said, “This wonderful book will give you the boost toward success that can make all the difference!” you can visit http://www.unstoppable-confidence.com and check out our 100% Lifetime Guarantee.
That’s a lot of strategies, my friend!
Boost your confidence.
Go for your dreams!
I believe in you, my friend!
To CANI,
SaiF
SaiF Improvement For The Day: Don’t let the lack of self-
confidence stop you from not taking the opportunities that are
rightfully yours. You’re special. Use these techniques and PUSH FORWARD!
P.S. Did you know that Paul Potts went on to win “Britain’s Got Talent”
and sold 2 million records as well as being #1 in 14 coountries?
SPLENDID!

Sorry to have to correct you but, Paul Potts went on to win “Britains Got Talent” Not “America’s Got Talent” :) great article :)
Antony | Mar 8, 2008 | Reply
AHHH! I thought I already changed that? Hmmm, must have slipped my mind… Thanks Antony!
SaiF | Mar 8, 2008 | Reply
I was, well speechless when I watched the video of Paul. How can I get in contact with Paul? I am a leadership speaker and would luv to meet him!
Pamela South | Mar 29, 2008 | Reply
Hey Pamela!
I was speechless and tearless after watching it! lol
I’m sorry but I don’t think I can help you with that.. My best bet would be to go for one of his concerts or get in touch with the producers of “Britain’s Got Talent”
To CANI!
SaiF | Mar 30, 2008 | Reply